April 15, 2015

The Bride and her 'zilla alter ego

I really don't intend to write much about wedding planning on the blog, but this incident is too good not to share...in a self-deprecating, man-I-can-be-a-jerk kind of way. Generally speaking, I've been really low key about our nuptials. We agreed early on that this would be a low key affair and include a small crowd of family and friends. We have prioritized the same things, arrived at a guest list with ease, and our families are on board with all of these things. Simple right? My friends and coworkers have laughed at how laissez-faire I've been. Some call me the anti-bride. I take it as a compliment.

Color scheme? What do you mean? I'll just pick flowers based on what is in season. 

Cake tasting? Oh you don't do that for small weddings? Ok, well I guess we'll do cupcakes instead. 

We set a date over the weekend and booked a photographer and DJ. I couldn't be more excited about the location we've chosen. It works for us - includes some beautiful outdoor spaces, has some rooms to accommodate our out-of-town family members, and incorporates history (both Civil War history for Adam, and country antiques for me). It's a beautiful place and I look forward to tying the knot there.

I bought a dress at the first place Mom and I visited. It's simply perfect and I can't wait to wear it when I marry Adam.  I found a beautiful hairpiece and some sparkly shoes.
Behind the bride lurks a bridezilla. We don't want her to
appear again!
This is too good to be true isn't it? Why yes, yes it is. The big vendors have fallen into place easily. Given the size and timeline for the wedding, we decided to forgo a mailed save the date card and send one via email instead. I spent some time putting something together using the exact same font and color scheme as the invitation. I'm no graphic designer but I know details matter! I showed it to Adam and he gave it a thumbs up. We put together the email list for our guests and he agreed to send it. We reviewed the email 3 or 4 times, double-checked the image, and hit send. For some reason the file never went through. Apparently the file type doesn't work with gmail or something like that so Adam changed it. The end result didn't look the way I had hoped it would and I totally lost my cool. Bridezilla arrived with a vengeance. It was totally irrational and I knew it, but I was frustrated and unable to keep my cool. My perfectionist tendencies manifested themselves in a less-than-pleasant manner. Ugh! The good news is that Adam and I have shrugged this one off. If this is our "worst" wedding-related incident, we'll be ok.

I perused some photos we took of our venue and smiled, knowing this is the place where we'll become husband and wife. And really, that's all that matters!  I found some mental clarity after my long run on Sunday.

Ever experienced the bridezilla take over during wedding planning?
{Christine}

23 comments:

  1. I love that you shared this! And that you have such a good way of getting back to the perspective that your get to marry Adam.

    Sending hugs!!!

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    1. Haha thanks friend! And thanks for being a wonderful supporter of us :) <3

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  2. I can't even imagine how frustrating that was, especially after putting work into the file. So sorry that happened! Glad you felt better after your run. Somehow, a good long run always makes things better! :)

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    1. Oh man, it was so insignificant. Clarity is good - at the end of the day if we're married, that's all that counts. And then I can move on to more important things...like convincing Adam to come to Disney with me!

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  3. Lol! Love this! I know how frustrating computers can be...and even more so when it's something as important as your wedding save the date! Hopefully Bridezilla can stay away for the rest of the wedding planning. But if she doesn't...then that's ok too in my opinion. It's your special day and it should be exactly the way you want it because you're only going to do it once! :-)

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    1. Thanks Mindy! Yea, it wasn't pretty. And the dang thing looked perfect before we hit send the first time. And poor Adam, he thought he was being helpful by just fixing it rather than making a fuss with me about it. He's a keeper! ;)

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  4. YES! Totally. Especially if you're in charge of the planning on your own. It can be the smallest thing that you lose your cool over. I lost it over invites too LOL

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    1. Glad I'm in good company. I think that the stress of everything else was building and this was when/how I snapped. Oy vey!

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  5. I am so excited for you and now hearing some of the details has got me even more excited! Will it be a summer wedding?

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    1. Thanks! :) Yes, summer wedding. I'm hoping for a beautiful day so we can enjoy some outdoor time, but I will have ample rain plans just in case and hope for the best!

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  6. Sorry to hear that the save the date didn't work out as well as you had hoped it would, but I'm glad that you were able to calm down and find clarity. Even though we sent our save the dates out almost 10 months before our wedding day, we also sent ours by e-mail. My parents, who footed most of the bill for our wedding, didn't understand the need for a save the date, and sending them by e-mail was our compromise. We hadn't even started working on our invitations when we sent them out, and they wound up looking completely different. Oh well!

    I butted heads with my parents quite a bit during wedding planning, but I think the biggest issue was that our original reception venue fell through due to issues that my dad had with the contract. He's a lawyer and found flaw after flaw with the contract, and finally said that my mom and I needed to find a different venue. You can only imagine the bridezilla that came out! Given that we got married in Illinois, I had to completely rely on my mom and the photos that I received to help choose a new venue from a distance. Let's just say it was quite stressful, but thankfully, worked out in the end.

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    1. I'm sure we'll all be at odds at some point. The beauty of a short engagement is the "get 'er done" attitude that we all seem to have. Thanks for sharing...made me feel slightly less insane!

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  7. This time last year I was flipping out over a passive aggressive mother in laws less than pleasant take on the invitations I spent days designing with a friend... in the end, no one will remember. :) Keep smiling and enjoy the moments!

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    1. Oh man, that would make me crazy! I'm lucky to have two moms (mine and Adam's) who are delightfully low key about the whole thing.

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  8. hahahaha, i was relatively low key but there were moments. cheers to you for getting most of the big stuff out of the way! such fun :)

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    1. It is fun. I will be happy once we have all of the vendors locked down. :)

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  9. Haha, I always envisioned that when my time comes, I'll be a bride like you -- relaxed, low-key, small affair, etc. But since there are so many details to consider, it's only natural that a bump in the road can make that 'zilla come out when you least expect it. Like you said, if this is the worst of it, then you guys are in pretty good shape! ;)

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    1. It's totally crazy! The little things become these massive, insurmountable obstacles. Totally irrational!

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  10. Do you get Real Simple magazine? There's a GREAT article in this months about mishaps at a wedding that you will love. So glad you're taking the simpler road! I know there WILL be more bumps, now and in the marriage and life ahead, but as long as you keep saying I'm sorry, and keep forgiving, the two of you will be brilliant:).

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  11. You are entitled to a moment or two, and it seems like it's the silly, little things that make a bride go a bit "zilla"!! Don't worry, and don't stress, the important thing is your big day, and the meaning of it for you and Adam as you embark on a new adventure together! It was just an email. :) You are doing great!! :)

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  12. I was like you - very interested in low key event and not expecting any Bridezilla moments until it snuck up on me. :) For me, it occurred in Hobby Lobby a day or so before the wedding when a much girlier friend of mine asked if I wanted to get tulle to wrap the posts of our outdoor venue and I flipped out a bit with a rant about how I was done making decisions and I wasn't making any more and no we weren't having tulle or anything else. :) It's amazing the little things that set us over! As long as we can laugh at ourselves when it's over, it'll all be okay. Glad everything is coming along so well!

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  13. I got married so young (I'd just turned 23) and we had NO money, so there weren't too many bridezilla episodes. My only one was the day of the wedding when I needed my mom for something (we had lots of friends and family helping out and they kept coming to me for questions about where to put things and other stuff like that) and she'd gone to the hairdresser for hours. I may have snapped at a few people because I was so frustrated that she disappeared for so long! I think we all have to have at least one of those moments along the way!

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