May 5, 2015

Planning a Wedding is Like Training for a Marathon

It's hard to believe that in less than 6 weeks I'll be married. Yes you read that right. We elected to plan our wedding in a comparatively short time because...well, we just want to be married. We didn't need to spend months agonizing over linens or the color of roses in our centerpieces. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with that but it's just not our style. I've started to feel like this whole wedding planning thing is a lot like training for a marathon...

1. You have to test out your outfit. From dress fittings to breaking in the shoes, there's some planning that happens. I've been walking around the house in my shoes to avoid blisters...in the same way I would with testing new running shoes.

2. Not everyone cares. This is not a happy one. I'm learning the hard way that there are people who won't really dedicate energy to our wedding...even ones you might expect. This feels like a parallel universe with marathon training and talking about it. "Oh goodness, is she talking about that dumb race again?"

3. There's a plan. When you plan wedding in 10 weeks, there's a timeline. Certain deadlines must be hit, with nearly military precision. It reminds me of the long training runs. Miss an 18 miler? Yikes! Miss the final 20 miler? Count on anxiety that you can hit the full marathon distance. Adam and I have spreadsheets...and checklists...and more spreadsheets. It's the only way to manage this. Well that and the fact that it turns out, we can divide and conquer quite well.

4. You'll hit a wall. Not unlike a marathon, there are emotional limits and boundaries that everyone has. At some point, you'll max out. There are days where wedding planning feels all-consuming. In full disclosure, I don't like those days. There have been many moments where I've felt like throwing in the towel and forgoing flowers or the perfect wedding shoes or matching programs. I go to bed and wake up with a clearer head...not unlike feeling crappy after another less-than-stellar run. You just get out there and try again.

5. Emotions run high. The only other time I've written about wedding planning was about a bridezilla-esque outburst. I've had to walk away at times, particularly those when I knew I was spent or at a wall. During marathon training, I've been known to lose it over silly things, particularly as race day grew near.

6. You'll want a support crew. Like training for a marathon, you'll want supporters as you plan a party for you and a few of your closest friends and family. Like Sunday night when I texted a friend about a frivolous purchase I wanted to make. Or during my Richmond training when I routinely talked to Megan and Cyanne about my lack of interest/heart during training. Supporters are great...on wedding day or race day, or leading up to it.

7. Crossing the finish line is ultimately all that matters. At some point or another during marathon training, the simple thought of crossing the finish line is enough. As in the case of wedding planning, all that really matters is that Adam and I are married. I thought about that today as we've had a few hiccups...mostly of the personality variety. If no one came, Adam and I would still be married. We would still become husband and wife, teammates for life. In the end, I simply want to cross that finish line with him...and maybe someday I'll convince him to cross a marathon finish line with me too!

Our engagement photos from Melissa Bliss Photography taken at the trail/park where Adam proposed
Ever planned a wedding or trained for a marathon and felt like throwing in the towel?
{Christine}

32 comments:

  1. Great post and even better engagement pix!! Enjoy every minute of this journey. When you cross that "finish line" at your wedding, it's only the beginning! I still laugh at some of the craziness that happened when we planned my daughter Alyson and Bill's wedding five years ago. Me? I've thought about throwing in the towel many times, not training for a marathon, but training for my first 10K. But, I'm going to push through Saturday at Tink (if I don't my daughter has threatened to drag me across the finish line). Joann

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    1. Aw you will do great at the 10k!! Hope you have a wonderful day with your daughter - we think it's the perfect way to spend mother's day!

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  2. Fun post, and so true! Especially the point about hitting the wall. There were multiple points in wedding planning where I felt like throwing my hands in air and saying let's just go to Vegas. But in the end, I was glad that we didn't go that route :) The photos are beautiful.

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    1. I know it will be worth the headache...as Adam often reminds me, he's only marrying me once so let's do it right! :) Thanks for your kind words.

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  3. Everything you've said is so true. I remember hitting the emotional wall and crying over the phone with my dad telling him that I was just ready to elope. That obviously didn't happen, and I would have regretted it, but in that moment that's all that I wanted.

    And I love your engagement photos! You guys look so happy and so in love!

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    1. Thanks Kathryn! It was fun to go back to the trail where Adam proposed when it was sunny and warm as opposed to breezy and mid-30s like the day he proposed!

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  4. What a perfect comparison! My husband and I had a 16-month engagement due to life logistics like a cross-country move and grad school, and I do think that such a long time can provide a little too much opportunity to over-think some aspects of the planning -- the whole process was a marathon in and of itself! Big props to you for getting right in the trenches and hammering out all those planning details, but also not losing sight of the "finish line" -- you two starting your life together is ultimately the only thing that matters, and you look so radiant and content in those engagement photos!

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    1. Thanks Becca! I've definitely had my moments, but on the whole it's going ok...or I'm saying that now! :)

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  5. This is great! I haven't planned a wedding, but I can only IMAGINE how time-consuming, stressful, and emotional it all must be. Just like running a marathon. :)

    I LOVE your engagement photos, BTW! Gorgeous!

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    1. It really is just like training for a marathon...but our wedding planning cycle is shorter which is crazy! And thanks for the kind words on the photos - they make me smile.

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  6. This is really cute and completely true! Love the engagement photos.

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  7. never planned a wedding (well, not for me!) but can see where planning for the two shall meet. You look so lovely in your engagement photos! I'm a big fan of short engagement and just doing it!

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    1. Thanks Mar! I'm kind of loving the short engagement. No time to agonize or obsess...I feel like we're making very rational decisions, as opposed to emotional ones.

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  8. love those pictures and you are SO RIGHT! try to brush off all the stuff involving other people - i had some things that surprised me as well. so happy for you!

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    1. Sooooo cheesy but I keep singing "Shake it Off" in my head. :)

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  9. Your engagement photos are gorgeous! I didn't have the opportunity to plan an all out wedding so I missed out on a few things. Of course I got to pick my dress, flowers, cake, etc but disney took care of everything and really made it stress free. But yea, regardless of how the wedding goes, crossing the finish line ( or start line rather) with Adam is all that matters. We are so excited for you. See ya soon!

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    1. Thanks Meranda! I bet Disney was amazing at handling everything...some days that sounds really tempting! :) Look forward to seeing you in DL this weekend!

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  10. Those engagement pictures are beautiful! I have not planned a wedding, but I watched my sister do it and I decided that if I ever get married, I'm eloping! Lol!

    I'm sure you're going to have a fun and beautiful wedding. Best wishes!

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    1. Thanks Jaime! Let me tell you, small wedding and short engagement...that seems to be working well for us.

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  11. Gorgeous pictures! You're right - there are definitely a lot of parallels, but the finish line with the right person is all that matters. Good luck managing these last few weeks and keep the end in sight!

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    1. Thank you for your sweet comment! :)

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  12. Haha, this is so true!! Your engagement photos are amazing! So happy for you!!

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    1. Thanks, Sue! I'm getting really excited!

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  13. This is so true! All the best with the final bits of planning your wedding. Love your engagement photos!!

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  14. What a cute post! I am so excited for you that you are getting married so quickly! I had to look back to see how long my husband and I were engaged before we got married... just under 12 weeks. I have never regretted getting married fast... it just made everything so much easier. I am enjoying your wedding-related posts. Beautiful engagement pics!

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  15. OH what great pictures. So happy for you. My favorite is the line, "Well, we just want to be married." Congrats again.

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  16. LOL LOVE LOVE this analogy:)
    You've just touched on my two favorite subjects, weddings and marathons:) These are my life, and out of almost 200 of them, I've never thought about them as similar, so fun!
    I hope that as the weeks start winding down, you find yourself stress free and just enjoying each moment:) I always tell my brides, don't listen to anyone else if you don't want to, just create the day you want to enjoy (Oh and I always say never go in debt for it, it's never worth that:)
    I love your pictures, you guys are a beautiful couple!

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  17. Fun post and amazing engagement photos :) Love the outfit...now I want to find a denim shirt hehe.

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  18. Great parallels.
    Oh my gosh your pictures are amazing!

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  19. Those photos are soo beautiful! And I love how you tied the two together. ;-) Lord willing, when I'm getting married someday I can look back at this post and think that I might be somewhat prepared for a taste of what wedding planning is like. I hope your wedding is amazing. And I loved this that you said,

    'In the end, I simply want to cross that finish line with him...and maybe someday I'll convince him to cross a marathon finish line with me too! '

    :-)

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  20. your engagement pics are so beautiful! and i love this post-I have never planned a wedding but could see how things learned in running could help

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