1. You have to test out your outfit. From dress fittings to breaking in the shoes, there's some planning that happens. I've been walking around the house in my shoes to avoid blisters...in the same way I would with testing new running shoes.
2. Not everyone cares. This is not a happy one. I'm learning the hard way that there are people who won't really dedicate energy to our wedding...even ones you might expect. This feels like a parallel universe with marathon training and talking about it. "Oh goodness, is she talking about that dumb race again?"
3. There's a plan. When you plan wedding in 10 weeks, there's a timeline. Certain deadlines must be hit, with nearly military precision. It reminds me of the long training runs. Miss an 18 miler? Yikes! Miss the final 20 miler? Count on anxiety that you can hit the full marathon distance. Adam and I have spreadsheets...and checklists...and more spreadsheets. It's the only way to manage this. Well that and the fact that it turns out, we can divide and conquer quite well.
4. You'll hit a wall. Not unlike a marathon, there are emotional limits and boundaries that everyone has. At some point, you'll max out. There are days where wedding planning feels all-consuming. In full disclosure, I don't like those days. There have been many moments where I've felt like throwing in the towel and forgoing flowers or the perfect wedding shoes or matching programs. I go to bed and wake up with a clearer head...not unlike feeling crappy after another less-than-stellar run. You just get out there and try again.
5. Emotions run high. The only other time I've written about wedding planning was about a bridezilla-esque outburst. I've had to walk away at times, particularly those when I knew I was spent or at a wall. During marathon training, I've been known to lose it over silly things, particularly as race day grew near.
6. You'll want a support crew. Like training for a marathon, you'll want supporters as you plan a party for you and a few of your closest friends and family. Like Sunday night when I texted a friend about a frivolous purchase I wanted to make. Or during my Richmond training when I routinely talked to Megan and Cyanne about my lack of interest/heart during training. Supporters are great...on wedding day or race day, or leading up to it.
7. Crossing the finish line is ultimately all that matters. At some point or another during marathon training, the simple thought of crossing the finish line is enough. As in the case of wedding planning, all that really matters is that Adam and I are married. I thought about that today as we've had a few hiccups...mostly of the personality variety. If no one came, Adam and I would still be married. We would still become husband and wife, teammates for life. In the end, I simply want to cross that finish line with him...and maybe someday I'll convince him to cross a marathon finish line with me too!
|Our engagement photos from Melissa Bliss Photography taken at the trail/park where Adam proposed|